Thomas May

The One About Relationships

Choosing a partner and staying together through life’s ups and down is rarely simple or easy. Given the last nine months of the global pandemic, and all the uncertainty, worry and stress, it’s no wonder our relationships...

Loneliness

Many of us feel lonely from time to time, it’s normal, and these short-term feelings shouldn’t harm our mental health. However, the longer the pandemic goes on for...

Turning Loneliness into Solitude

The global pandemic has brought a host of new and unsettling experiences, including working from home, homeschooling and online socialising, as well of course having to go into lockdown and quarantine...

Health Matters

The role of diet in the nation’s mental health has yet to be fully understood and embraced, but the research is now building about the direct association between what people eat and drink and how they feel, think and behave

The Health One

The list below is an ‘al a carte’ menu of proven ways to help you improve your health and wellbeing. Each point has been selected from various studies, research, articles, talks, and finally from my previous CareMails.

Life After LockDown

I thought it would be helpful to start with a simple explanation of what happens to our mind and body when we are feeling anxious, upset or even scared and fearful.

Becoming Your Own Therapist - Part 1

In recent articles I’ve talked about stress and anxiety, loss and bereavement, and the need for control. Yet in my practice there is one issue that presents itself time and time again, the feeling of inadequacy.

Becoming Your Own Therapist - Part 2

In this 10th CareMail I’m going to explain how you can replace emotional reactivity with thoughtful observation, enabling you to become more of an anthropologist, observing your feelings rather than getting pulled in and swamped by them.

Increasing Our Happiness - Part 1

Whatever happiness means for you, here are some proven ways to increase your happiness levels and general wellbeing; something we can all benefit from right now.

Increasing Our Happiness - Part 2

Lockdown intensifies the positive and the negative emotions we feel. So, if you are generally a worrier then in the current climate it will seem like a magnifying glass has been placed over your feelings.

Grief and Loss

Grief is the internal expression of our loss, it’s our thoughts and feelings, our emotional and behavioural response to the death of a loved one.

Grief and Mourning

During the grieving process feelings can be very transient, so be prepared to deal with a whole disparate range of them, often all on the same day.

Self-Soothing Exercise

The idea of this exercise is that in times of stress, anxiety or upset you give yourself a soothing hug, which helps you regulate your inner emotional state, settling your feelings, resulting in a calmer internal state.

Relaxation Exercise

This technique helps to calm the body and really appreciate staying in and savouring the moment. It is also a really helpful intervention...

Breathing Exercise To Relax You…

I am going to remind you of the Breathing Exercise I often do in my sessions, and which so many of my clients have said really helps them relax.

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